Pose Breakdown: Restorative Child’s Pose

Restorative child’s pose with a sandbag on the lower back and a blanket roll under the ankles.

Child’s Pose is often offered in yoga classes as an option for rest. It’s the universal sign for “I am taking a break right now.” It’s a simple forward fold, similar to the fetal position. For most of us, it signals to our bodies that it’s time to relax.

That said, child’s pose isn’t comfortable for everyone, and not everyone would be able to comfortably hold it for several minutes.

That’s where our props come in handy. In the photo above, I’ve gone pretty much all out with the props. Let’s check them out:

1. A blanket or thick mat under the knees. The number one complaint I hear about child’s pose is discomfort putting our body weight on the knees. Let’s address this by putting down an extra thick yoga mat or padding it up with a folded blanket. Note where my knees are in the photo. You’ll want to build your “ramp” in step 2. on top of your knee blanket so that your knees still land on the blanket.

2. Build your ramp. Child’s pose can be done with nothing underneath you, which, depending on your anatomy, could take some work to hold yourself in place. Instead, with restorative child’s pose, we want to relax and let gravity and the props do the work for us. So, you can try simply placing a large bolster flat on the mat. It will support your torso and give you something to hug onto. Or, you can do as I have done in the photo and build a ramp so you don’t have to bend down as far. To do this, take two blocks. Set one on the medium setting and the other on the lowest setting to build yourself a little stair-step. Bring a large bolster to rest on top to create your “ramp.” Note: I’ve seen some people whose anatomy or positioning causes their heads to bend back sharply. If this is you, try bringing your ramp up even higher, either by stacking two large bolsters on top of each other or making more of a “table” out of your props, by placing the blocks on their highest setting and placing them under both ends of the bolster.

3. Support your ankles. If you have tight ankles – especially common among runners and cyclists – or find it uncomfortable to put body weight on your ankles, then try rolling up a blanket to place under the ankles as I have done in the photo. It will allow your ankles to keep a slight bend and will take some of the pressure off.

4. Not pictured: Support between the hips and heels. Many people find it uncomfortable for their hips and bottom to hang above their heels. You can ease this tension by placing a rolled up blanked or a long and thin bolster on top of your heels to sit on.

5. Settle in! To come into the pose, come to hands and knees facing your ramp. Scootch in close, and open your knees so that the end of the ramp lands between your legs. Arrange your props and then lay your torso down on the props. I like to look over one shoulder for half of my time in the pose, then look the other way. I see plenty of students who prefer to look down the whole time, sometimes with a little extra support like a folded-up blanket under their forehead so their face has a little separation from the bolster. Notice spots of tension and resistance, and focus on relaxing them. Hold for a total of six minutes, switching your gaze at the three-minute mark.

6. Nerd out with the details. In the picture, I have also placed folded up blankets under my forearms. I have short arms, so sometimes blankets help bring the floor a little closer to me. Other times, the floor is just plain cold! Blankets can help. You’ll also notice that I like my hands facing up in the pose. I find that when I try putting my palms down, it feels a little too active. My body thinks I’m about to ask it to do pushups or something, so the muscles in my back stay ready and a little tense. I’ve also seen people who have busy/active hands grasp onto the blocks or grasp onto small eye pillows to quiet their hands. Also in the picture, I have a sandbag on my low back to gently guide my bottom a little closer to my heels. Ask a friend to add one for you, it can be a juicy touch. And lastly, consider covering up! A blanket over your whole body can make this a cozy pose indeed.

When nothing works. Some people are never comfortable in forward folds and find them agitating rather than relaxing. Other people, espeically some of my clients with hip or knee replacements, never seem to settle in either. It’s OK to find another pose, like a restorative puppy (with support under your hips so there is much less pressure on the knees), a restorative child’s pose in the chair, or other option.

Contemplating Vast Horizons

I attended Jessamyn Stanley’s workshops at Barefoot in late February, and she got me thinking about what it means to be big and what it means to be small.

In yoga and mediation, we talk about allowing the mind to become vast. “Expansive” is a word often used. But off the mat, how often to we think of it as a good thing to be “big” in Western society? Do “big” and “small” have different connotations for men and women? Does the circumstance matter?

I think impossible beauty standards in Western society have gotten us all kinds of mixed up. Instead of looking at our big feet, our big bellies or small eyelashes (or if you’re a man, small muscles and small hands) – whatever – and seeing them just as they are, we assign value judgements to all of our qualities.

Likewise, I believe some of us have been taught to shrink ourselves. To be quiet, not express ourselves or be too pushy about our own thoughts or ideas. That can be good – I mean, it’s nice to be polite – but it can also go overboard.

Like so many things, balance and less judgement can help, and I think yoga gives us an opportunity to practice that.

Leader yogis like Jessamyn are breaking new ground in these territories. Dianne Bondy and Anna Guest-Jelley are other personal favorites. I love hearing them subtly challenge society in their yoga classes. Encouraging us to take up space on our mats, really fell ourselves filling up our bodies, and then seeing ourselves getting even bigger – to encompass the whole world. 

Because, ultimately, yoga teaches us to become so expansive that we realize our connection with the whole world. And what could be bigger – or better?? – than that.